The Big F#cking Book on How to Be a Decent Guy

A blunt, funny guide to character, courage and leadership for men.

A lot of young men today feel stuck between two messages.

One says masculinity is toxic.
The other says double down and dominate.

Neither is very helpful.

The Big F#cking Book on How to Be a Decent Guy is a funny, brutally honest guide to figuring out what decent leadership actually looks like in real life, at work, in relationships, and in the everyday decisions that shape who you become.

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Why I Wrote This Book

I’ve spent over ten years teaching leadership.

Along the way I noticed something strange: a lot of men aren’t trying to be jerks.

They’re trying to do the right thing, but the rules seem confusing, contradictory, and constantly shifting.

This book doesn’t pretend to have perfect answers. But it does offer stories, mistakes, and lessons about how to grow into someone who can lead with integrity.

What’s Inside the Book

Inside the book you’ll find stories about:

  • speaking up when it costs you

  • navigating power and gender at work

  • learning from leadership failures

  • building confidence without becoming arrogant

  • understanding respect, responsibility and courage

These lessons come from real experiences, in classrooms, companies, international organizations and everyday life.

Who the Book Is For

This book is written for:

  • young men trying to figure out adulthood

  • students entering the workforce

  • parents raising sons

  • mentors who want better conversations about masculinity

  • anyone who believes leadership starts with character

Many of the leadership lessons in this book come from the same stories and experiences that shape Anthony’s keynote talks on inclusive leadership, culture and trust.

While the book speaks directly to young men, the ideas are relevant to anyone interested in what decent leadership looks like in practice.

Title: The Big F#cking Book on How to Be a Decent Guy
Author: Dr. Anthony Giannoumis
Format: Paperback
Release: Nov 19, 2026 (International Men’s Day)

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Media & Speaking Inquiries

If you’re interested in interviews, podcast conversations, or event talks related to the themes of the book, please get in touch.

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